{"id":3493,"date":"2016-01-19T17:10:43","date_gmt":"2016-01-20T01:10:43","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.coachingintothelight.com\/?p=3493"},"modified":"2016-04-06T00:10:44","modified_gmt":"2016-04-06T07:10:44","slug":"career-success-coaching-orange-county","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.therapistoc.com\/?p=3493","title":{"rendered":"Career Success and Self Image"},"content":{"rendered":"

Loving yourself\u00a0is selfish! Lucy was always told… \u201cDon’t get too big a head\u201d, her parents warned. \u201cDon’t be a big deal.\u201d Judi Wolder at Cedar Light Life Coaching says, there is a difference between narcissism and\u00a0loving yourself. ‘Self-love’ is a popular\u00a0phrase used by personal developmental\u00a0coaches and psychologists today. It means appreciating the\u00a0\u00a0knowledge and talents you have. Conversely, narcissism is thinking you are\u00a0great in all dimensions even if you are lacking in the knowledge or talent.<\/span><\/p>\n

Lucy was brought up with good family values. She was always told to work hard, help others, be charitable, be respectful and be polite. Only problem was, Lucy was not taught by example. All the giving was focused outside of the family and Lucy was invisible. Her voice did not matter. In fact, as long as she was quiet, and ‘good’, she would get positive attention. Lucy learned from a young age that nobody wanted to hear what she had to say and nobody valued her ideas. What’s more, she never did seem to get anything right! \u201cDo it like this, not like that…. Lucy, what are you doing?!!! You’re making a mess! Oh… just let me do it!\u201d. The message was loud and clear \u2013 Lucy did not matter.<\/span><\/p>\n

While Lucy’s parents had the best of intentions, they were focused on image and what others thought about them. While some of the values Lucy grew up with were laudable, many unintentional messages made their way into Lucy’s brain. Lucy became too scared to be herself; afraid that her ideas would be laughed at. Her only way of survival in her family was to hide her true self, and her true feelings.<\/span><\/p>\n

As time wore on, Lucy developed anxiety: Especially in social settings. In her thirties, she decided to start her own business as a sales agent for a wonderful innovative company. She was so excited about her new venture. But every time she opened her mouth to introduce her products to potential customers, she would freeze in mid sentence, at a total loss for words. When this happened, she would usually mumble that she needed the rest room, and escape as soon as she could. Over and over again, Lucy would get stuck during her sales pitches. Finally, she admitted the truth to her best friend, \u201cYou know, I don’t think I really like myself very much.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

What happened to Lucy is described aptly\u00a0by parenting expert Sidonie Gruenberg who\u00a0stated, “To value his own good opinion, a child has to feel that he is a worthwhile person. He has to have confidence in himself as an individual. This confidence is hard for children to develop and there are many experiences that may shake it”. Like Lucy, many people\u00a0have had experiences that shook\u00a0their self-confidence. This can become problematic later on, as in Lucy’s case. They often become highly anxious, obsess about what others think and find it has a negative affect on their success.<\/span><\/p>\n

A positive self image is what breeds success in life. It is what gives people the ability to get up time and time again. It is what makes winners.<\/b>\u00a0Judi Wolder, Life Coach in Orange County says. When you give\u00a0children positive messages, and allow them to express their ideas\u00a0– even if they ‘mess up’, it builds a strong self image so that they can follow their path with immense fulfillment and satisfaction. Self-love develops emotional intelligence (EQ), which is imperative for success in life. Every individual deserves to shine. Self love is not<\/b> selfish! It creates ego strength and frees the true self from self-made boundaries.<\/span><\/p>\n

To all the Lucy’s out there, realize that nourishing yourself enables\u00a0you to nourish others. Judi Wolder, Life\u00a0Coach in Orange County, can help you\u00a0express\u00a0your\u00a0hidden talents\u00a0so that others\u00a0can gain<\/strong> from knowing the true you<\/strong>!\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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